Throw down the guns and put up your arms, this has gone on far too long, letters from home cannot calm the storm, surrender to the fear and lets move on.
The kiss that you give feeds the fire inside, behind these eyes is where you belong, wrapped up in your arms is when I feel warm, wait for judgement day to see if its wrong.
Five hard years and my country is strong, we may have lost our brothers but we carry on, explain to our sons how we dodged the bomb, and pray they can live without arms.
In Paris I saw beauty defined, Shakespeare put thoughts in my weary mind, you can always alter the grand design, take one deep breath and leave yourself behind.
My father said exhibit your pride, he used few words yet still I was convinced, I bid goodbye to my innocent time, it was too early in life to know what I’d miss. Daniel King- Rumi-Nations
Surrender…is one of those words that reminds us of vulnerability. Remember back to when you were a child. Do you remember feeling vulnerable? Did you like it? Being vulnerable to someone else’s schedule, other people’s whims. You had no choice but to surrender because after all, you were dependent on other people for your survival. It wasn’t much fun, was it.
So many of us remember surrender as defeat. Not getting our way or being out of control of a situation. It calls up sadness, anger and frustration.
As an adult, it’s hard to move past these memories to a new definition of surrender. Surrendering to yourself. Maybe it’s time to stop watching everyone else at the amusement park, and get in line to ride the roller coaster. For a time, stop parenting yourself and keeping life on such a tight leash. Relax. Play. Join in.
But…if you aren’t in charge, who is? I recently talked to a friend of mine who knows he can pull out a project at the last minute. And do a great job. While everyone else is obsessing about schedules and timelines, he relaxes and does what he does best, enjoys the ride.
I’ve started working with a business partner. Surrender has become a big deal in my world lately. I look around at all the relationships that fail because no one surrenders, everyone fights to the bitter end. I’m choosing to give up some control, let someone into this world. Create something bigger than myself. Not surrendering to the unknown, surrendering to myself.
How do you handle surrender? Do you emotionally detach and become dead weight? Or do you stay present yet open to the unknown?
Surrender is less about giving up, giving in. And more about excitedly anticipating something outside your vision. The unexplored. The ride in the amusement park. Good or bad, surrender may be the next chapter in your and my book of life.
Rita Hickman is a shiatsu massage therapist and energy worker, writer/director/musician/producer, wellness mentor and happiness guru. She is the owner of InSpire, a physical and virtual wellness center and on the board of Living Naturally, a non-profit connecting people with holistic and cultural medicines.