Coaching 3 - InSpire Massage

​​Yes. You can stop a Narcissist's Abuse FOREVER ​

​​​Without sacrificing any more of your self-respect

It doesn't matter if you want to leave, heal or find some inner peace.

Dear Narcissist Survivor,

​Have you ever walked away from a Narcissist, but got pulled back into their rage and drama?​

​Did you ​fall in love with ​your Soulmate, ​and then found out they were really a Narcissist?

​I'm so sorry you had to go through that. You don't deserve to be treated like you're nothing.

​But, ​you don't have to live like that anymore. I want to assure you, you can have a better life.

You see, when you start treating yourself with more dignity and self-respect, people start treating you differently. They start treating you better. Even the Narcissist.

You probably ​were never taught that. Or encouraged to stand up for yourself. Or had good women role models to show you how to do it. That helped you believe in yourself and helped you stand up for yourself.

And you should really know, you're NOT hopeless. Or stupid. Or damaged goods.

You're a good woman who's gone through a hard time because of living, loving or working with a Narcissist.

And ​you're not alone. Most people are closed down and treat empathic, compassionate women like they're weak. But ​in reality, we're extremely smart and strong to feel as much as we do and stay open without falling apart.

​Empathic women have always dealt with this abuse ​by finding a community of other strong, smart women and learning from them how to respect herself. ​Even if it means walking away. ​

As strange as this sounds to you, you have everything you need inside you, that, with a little support from a village of compassionate, caring women, ​​gives you the strength you need to change your life.

​I'm Rita Hickman, ​a Narcissism Recovery Speaker, Healer and Coach. And I’ve helped hundreds of women ​in my ​private practice make a very nice life for themselves. Some were during and some were after living with a Narcissist.

​These are smart and successful, empathic and nice women who ​thought they were worthless after being around a Narcissist for a few years.

But they decided to take back their dignity and self-esteem instead.

They decided they wanted more out of life, to heal and to stay away from Narcissists forever. So they came to me instead.

​Super creative and successful nurses and bankers, yoga teachers, energy healers, software engineers and doctors.

​High school teachers, psychotherapists, entrepreneurs, massage therapists and world travelers.

Every career you can think of. The women who, in essence, run the country behind the scenes.

​And after just a little bit of time, these powerful, funny women get their confidence and self esteem back, AND learn ​how to create healthy relationships or even walk away, if that's what it takes.

Even when the Narcissist is their mother, their boss, their husband or their kid.

But before we talk about stopping your abuse,​ first, you need to understand how you got here​, damaged by the emotional violence created by a Narcissist. 

​See if any of these sound sound like you...

​5 reasons women get trapped in Narcissist relationships

  • ​​You're too tired and numb to fight anymore. You're gaslighted and emotionally abused several times a week - from extreme rages, to full-frontal "love bombing" - even after going "No Contact”.
  • You're ​ashamed of the abuse. Your brain keeps playing the negative tapes. "If you could just listen better. You're too selfish. ​You cry too much... you need a thicker skin." ​Maybe you reached out to your family, or a counselor, and they said the same thing, "'It's your fault' - 'You're too sensitive' - 'You should count your blessings'."
  • Your rheumatoid arthritis, fibromyalgia, diabetes, vertigo, afibrillation, lyme’s disease, Epstein Barr Virus, chronic pain… has shown up because of the stress. ​Physical pain is often a direct result of emotional stress. You just can't get a break.
  • You're paralyzed by the anxiety and depression. Maybe you're using prescription and recreational drugs - ​or scared of panic attacks - thinking you're an idiot. You just don't have anything left to make ​your life better. Even if you believed it were possible.
  • You've got some good reasons to work at it. Maybe it's a retirement plan. Or a roof over your head. Maybe you have a daughter. Maybe you don't have anywhere to go.  Or anyone to go to. You don't have a job. You're related to the Narcissist. ​Or you're worried how they would retaliate if you left. ​We all know, sometimes, it seems easier to stay.

​But at the end of the day, Narcissist abuse almost always turns smart - funny - empathic - compassionate women - into trapped - scared - helpless - weak - frustrated - angry - lonely women. Stuck in a toxic environment that makes them sicker.

But there really is a way out...

​I'm a woman who was trapped by my Narcissistic relationships - so, I totally get the brainwashing and emotional abuse a Narcissist uses to control their victim, especially when it's a woman. I dealt with it both as a little girl and as an adult.

​And if you eventually hit your limit, like I did, you need to get good at standing up for yourself and stopping the abuse.

​The first step is to find a group of loving women who know how lonely and hard it is to find your way back after you've been controlled by a Narcissist. 

​You need emotional support and experience from women who've suffered from a Narcissist too. ​

​You need women who want to stand next to you so you keep making good choices.

​And women who look out for you ​to make sure you treat yourself with dignity and self-respect.

I'm Rita Hickman and I've been helping women heal from Narcissist abuse for more than 12 years.

​I'm a Narcissist Survivor, Healer and Coach who is also a Shiatsu Massage Therapist, Asian Medicine Shamanic Healer and Hands On Body/Mind Teacher - and I've helped thousands of women ​get their lives back from a Narcissist.

In my private practice, women ​find a bigger version of themselves and in the process, heal their bodies and minds. They get stronger and then make better decisions which give them a better life.

​​I have to admit, I'm a teeny bit obsessive about the science of emotional healing and so I always am asking my successful clients, spiritual mentors, energy healers, aromatherapists, astrologers, medical doctors, psychic advisors, scientists, coaches, psychotherapists and dozens of other successful women healers this one question:

“What are the easiest, most effective and most enjoyable ways to help a woman stop a Narcissist’s abuse?”

This is what they say to me:

"​It needs to be something that gives women a sense of community so she can re-build her dignity and self-respect and stop the Narcissist abuse forever."

​So we pulled together the most important pieces that work together to make a safe and private place for you to ​take back your dignity and self-respect from a Narcissist:

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    ​Make it ok for you to discover who you are and what you really want in your life. Narcissists shut women down every time they have a thought of their own. And it's smart to watch what you say around a Narcissist. ​You're probably nervous about opening yourself up to other women because you've been burned before. ​We get that. So we help you feel safe enough to trust again by meeting every week in an online Sacred Talking Circle. It's a place where you're safe to talk about your day and think about the future ​because we're all survivors of a Narcissist. ​My job is to watch how things flow and make sure everybody's doing ok. ​Everyone shares the good things and the bad things of the week. Without judgement. And after a little time, you start to open up and connect with other loving, kind women in a more authentic way.
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    ​​​Help you feel confident ​enough to trust yourself and have relationships again. A Narcissist makes you think you're crazy ​so you​'re easier to manipulate. ​After ​having a Narcissist gaslight you, it's important to learn and practice what healthy relationships look like. This is the group to practice with. Safe, strong, creative, smart, compassionate, empathic women, just like you. We all hang out in the ​private Facebook group. A kind group of women friends where a woman can learn to trust herself and other women again.
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    Help you dream a better future. After awhile, Narcissist abuse makes you feel hopeless. ​When you live with a lot of stress, for a long time, you also start to get physically sick. When you're that sick and tired, it's hard to think anything is going to change. ​You need another voice than the one inside your head to remind you what is possible. You also need help and support to get it. So every month we come together as a community of powerful women and map out 2-4 easy, concrete steps for you to take over the next month that ​will stop the abuse and create a better life. These sessions are Masterminds. ​ Using the collective power of a community to help you make smart decisions. ​
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    Give you good advice that encourages you to heal and grow. The problem with advice is that you can't always trust it. A lot of it comes from the ego without respecting what you're really dealing with. So "Good Advice" can really be "Bad Advice". How do you know the difference? Good Advice respects you and respects what you want. And Good Advice comes from ​intuition, experience and curiosity about the solution. ​You've already sacrificed a lot - and it kept you safe when you were scared - ​ but eventually - you get sick from all the stress. ​​We work with nature, herbal medicines, meditation, crystals, essential oils, astrology, chakras, Asian Medicine, shamanism, and other gentle tools to help you relax into a natural rhythm ​that supports your intuition. For the record, I am a woman who loves to relax and feel good. ​Staying relaxed helps me live in the flow of life instead of working against it.
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    Help you find a safe place inside you when you're feeling emotionally unstable.​ Our old friend Anxiety will sit on the front porch, snarking about the outdoor furniture, being pushy about the ice tea is and sticking around when you really want a nap. When we feel anxious, it's really hard to think clearly. So I've taken all my Narcissism Recovery daily livestreams (around 300), each 10-20 minutes long and put them together into a free, searchable library. So when you need to feel connected and grounded, type in a phrase, like "gaslighting" and it will pull up exact video clips and transcripts that use the phrase "gaslighting". By watching and reading the clips, you start to calm down and get back into your intuition. 

See, healers (like you and me) know ​the best way to heal from a Narcissist is by getting loving support EVERY DAY​. Because Scientists and Shamans tell us, when you get the support you need, a few important things start to happen.

  • ​You start telling people - in a way they can hear you - what you need and how you feel. Just doing this - in the right way - makes your life easier automatically.
  • ​You count many more good days than bad days.
  • ​Your health problem settles down and you feel more stable and grounded overall. ​
  • ​You find your close friends who are kind, compassionate, smart, successful and like to help out and listen.
  • ​You get a better understanding of who you are and what you're supposed to do with your life.
  • ​You let go of the anger and hurt and your heart physically heals.
  • ​You have more peace in all your relationships.
  • ​You enjoy feeling connected and alive every day in a miraculous and open hearted way.

​​So how do you get back to that strong, compassionate woman inside you? How do you heal the little girl?

​Women work with me in several different ways depending on how fast she wants to grow and where she lives.

When a woman needs to deal with her Narcissism FAST, she works with me 1:1 every week with email/text coaching in-between. ​We ​spend 1-2 hours hours every session to find out what she needs ​and thengive it to her or help her get it. ​If she lives far away, we do coaching and energy healing. If she lives in the Chicagoland or Milwaukee area, we do coaching and body-energy work. 

​We stir things up a little by talking about then let it all go using the body or energy work. It's a potent combination.

The idea is to find and fix the problems and build a strong foundation so you don't attract another Narcissist and stand up to the ones you already have. ​But meeting with me 1:1 every week for a year is more than most women have budgeted for. (my coaching with energy work packages average $10,000/year).

​So I wanted something more affordable and just as effective to help women rebuild their self-esteem and sense of self and speed it up with my Narcissism experience, knowledge, and insights. ​We can't overlook the village of powerful, kind women standing behind you to help you make the important changes that stop the abuse.

I’d like to personally invite you to join our village of empathic women in the

​Narcissist Recovery Group Coaching Program

​​The world needs more women to come together in nurturing and life changing villages. Women who were traumatized and tired from having such open hearts. And now ​they want to live authentically, with loving hearts, without worrying about a Narcissist's abuse.  ​

You've heard the saying:

It's true.

​And it takes a village of women to ​be next to you when you walk away from a Narcissist's abuse too.


​A woman who's lived with Narcissism, needs loving, intelligent support ​until she naturally evolves into the woman she's supposed to be.


​That's why ​you are invited to our Narcissist Recovery Group Coaching program, by empathic women, for empathic women.


So let's go through and I'll explain step by step how it works:

Weekly Training

You find ​Positive Messages every day to remind you, You are Strong and Smart

Every good day should start with a good feeling, just like meditating in the morning. ​So we want to help. I record a daily livestream about Narcissism on Facebook and Youtube ​every day, M-F at 7:30 am CST. These livestreams put you in a good mood and connect you to other women who deal with Narcissism. ​You can catch up and comment later if you want because they're all in the library: recorded, transcribed and searchable.

  • ​Herbs that help you ​relax, instead of triggering with a Narcissist
  • ​The exact words to say that redirect a Narcissist's negative thoughts before they attack you.
  • What to look for to find better friends, a new job and a loving partner.
Weekly Sacred Women Circle

When you need to go deeper, you get more support every week with LIVE Narcissist Recovery Classes.

Every week you get to sit cozy in your favorite chair and relax into the BEST ways to stay healthy and deal with Narcissist relationships. ​Some of the live trainings are...

  • ​Demonstrations on how to use ​Asian Medicine, Spirituality and Shamanic traditions to stop feeling so angry, anxious and depressed because of a Narcissist. ​
  • ​Steps to set simple but important boundaries to stop Narcissists from bullying you. They’re easier than you thought - and the softest tool in your toolbox.
  • Help setting daily habits so you rebuild your confidence and self-esteem
  • Mindset meditations that attract and create healthy relationships
  • ​Round Tables on raising healthy children when co-parenting with a Narcissist
  • and more...

You learn the exact skills you need to take back your power and feel like a confident, successful woman - even if it's been a long time since you've been authentically happy.


Best of all, you'll get the exact step-by-step instructions on how to turn your relationships around.

These Sacred Circles of women ​help you take big, important (and sometimes scary) steps in your life.


You call in with your computer or smartphone, or if it works better for you, you dial in using your phone and simply listen. It's that easy.

If you don't​ have time for the live call, it's not a problem. They are all recorded and ​you can find them in the library after each call.

Monthly Private Masterminds

When you need real women role models who ​let you into their lives and share with you how they stand up to a Narcissist, then ​you come to a Sacred Talking Circle​

Every week, after the short training, you are part of a Sacred Circle of Women. This is where you talk about how you're doing ​in a safe space with smart women who care about you and don't judge.


These are successful, creative women, just like you. And in this safe circle of women, we ​talk about the experiences we're having healing from a Narcissist's abuse.

​My job, and I'm pretty good at it, is to create a structure that makes sure everyone feels safe and keeps moving forward in a positive way. Even when we have a few cathartic tears.

I can't over-emphasize how valuable this piece is…It’s so important for you to know you aren't the only one who's been trapped and manipulated by a Narcissist. 

These Sacred Circles keep you grounded enough to recognize, in your bones, once and for all, that you're not alone and you're not the crazy one… this village raises every single woman up, including you.

​When you need to know exactly what to do and how to do it, then we come together for a ​Sacred Circle Mastermind 

Every month you're part of your own private Mastermind.

​To be clear, a Mastermind is when two or more (in this case your village of women) come together for a higher purpose than themselves.

This is a special time when the women in the group get together just for you and help you come up with the exact steps you want to take in the next 30 days.

You don’t have to guess what to do next or how to get it done, because every month you get 45 minutes or more working on your concrete plan for the next month to heal from your Narcissist abuse. Even if you're still in the relationship.

We look at where you’re at, where you’re going and how you’re going to get there. ​We also figure out ​​​how we can help you follow through so you keep moving toward.

When you have a plan, friends and a coach it means you get things done a lot faster than trying to figure it out on your own.

Guided by Rita Hickman

​When you just need a friend at 2am, you're part of the ”Recovering From Narcissism” Woman Only Facebook Group…

​One of the hardest parts of healing from Narcissism is finding women who understand what it's like.

We really understand how powerful having close women friends is when you've been emotionally isolated for so long. ​

​That's why you're part of a private, members only Facebook ​Group. It's your Village of Women who are also healing from Narcissism. ​

There are women from all over the country, in different parts of their healing process. And they are all nice, creative and thoughtful, just like you.

This is your village of women who are smart, successful, funny, kind and compassionate... just like you.

When you need good advice and a proven way to heal from Narcissism, I'm your gal.

I was once told that the difference between every other Narcissism Recovery Program and this one, was me. ​

​I really good at helping you ​feel comfortable (and safe) enough to open up your heart and start healing. So here’s what I bring to the table: 

  • A 12+ year body/mind therapy practice helping women just like you, living with and healing from Narcissist relationships. I know what I’m doing and do it well. And if I don’t have an answer, we find an answer together.
  • Decades of first hand experience living with, healing from and even turning around my own Narcissistic and toxic relationships. I am always doing my own inner work ​have my own coaches, psychologist, spiritual mentor, metaphysical chiropractor other healers in my healing circle. They keep me healthy and present.
  • ​I am a humane and intuitive healer that knows how to feel good and help you see through the chaos of a Narcissist. When I did my own inner work, ​I learned that community, self-care and self-respect are the cornerstones of healing from Narcissist abuse.
Rita Hickman
Rita Hickman

And if you're ready to walk away from or stand up to a Narcissist, this is the help you’ve been looking for.

I have 12 years of experience and run a private practice helping women heal from narcissistic abuse.

Together, we use body and energy work, Asian Medicine, nutrition, meditation, essential oils, music therapy and Shamanism. 

Many of the women I work with also have complex PTSD from childhood sexual and physical abuse, rape, alcoholism and other trauma.

Here's what just a few of my clients say about the work we do together:


Heartfelt gratitude for you creating a space where clarity, guidance is offered to many... your posts are daily nurturing vitamins and tools in my toolbox of how to be grounded and be able to respond and not to react to life situations....and exciting part is that I feel it in my heart that I am on my life journey in a space of getting to know myself for the first time and learning to be available to myself...gently, kindly, patiently nurturing way being present with myself.
Thank you Rita, you are making difference in lives of many.

/ Bibiana


Learning about this was amazing. I couldn’t put it into words to even try to explain what was going on. I didn’t know myself. I was at a loss. It feels amazing to get some knowledge. I had lost hope and was expecting to live my life out until my demise. I had become so distraught I told my daughter I couldn’t take any more.
She told me I needed to redo my living room and move in there to have my own space. My husband dominated the tv in the family room. I physically was not able to make the move myself. She came and painted and redid my living room. I got all new furniture, curtains and carpet and my very own tv. I think I can make it now
P.S. I payed for it all my self lol.

/ Marjorie


Thank you everyone for an outstanding group last night.
Rita, you don’t know this, but I actually have terrible fear of speaking in groups online or conference calls and the like. Calling on me to speak was actually the best thing you could have done. I found that being put “on the spot” actually didn’t kill me. Lol! I started to get comfortable with it by the end of the call, and I actually could have talked more, but I wanted to give the others a chance to speak. Thank you again. God bless you.

/ Catherine


Thank you! I really do feel a deeper understanding. Between you and Eckhart Tolle's explanation of the "pain body " the information and understanding is so changing! Thank you and Thank you for noticing my path. <3 wow!

/ Chanel

​In this Narcissism Recovery Program get your questions answered, learn practical, hands on tools from Asian Medicine, Shamanic healing, Body/Mind Science (think, digestive system, subconscious, nervous system, immune system, heart brain, biology of emotions and managing chronic pain).

And you're introduced to thousands year old spiritual and metaphysical traditions that work and are fast, beautiful and easy. 

​We use the same tools I have in In my own personal and business healing practices. I work with essential oils, energy work, Native American healing modalities, nutrition, meditation, visualization, crystals, sound healing, drumming and much more... every day.

Together, we stand on the shoulders of generations of women healers and teachers that came before we did, and share their sage advice and practical guidance. I think you'll really like the easygoing and gently eccentric energy of this village.​

Question and Answer Live Call Schedule

The calls last about 90 minutes and will happen each week on Tuesdays at the same time.

If you want to ask questions or just watch and listen, it's completely up to you. You're in control.

Frequently Asked Questions:

What if I can't make a call?

What if I miss a call?

What if I need help right now and don't want to wait for the next call?

Do I have to talk on the calls?

So How Much Would Taking Back Your Dignity and Self-Respect Be Worth To You?

​When you want to take back your life from a Narcissist, you need a lot of community support and good information. ​

You need daily inspiration to keep your spirits up - good information about how to relax - real examples of how to keep Narcissists from taking advantage of you - time to talk about your goals, your dreams, your frustrations and your problems - a safe place to just be yourself - and gentle experiences that help you heal. ​

It's a process that gives back more than you put into it. ​

So let's break down the different parts:



Daily Narcissist Recovery Tools and Inspiration


Weekly training around surviving Narcissism


Weekly Sacred Women’s Circles


Monthly Masterminds


Email support between calls


​A safe and private Facebook group


Total Value


Even though it's worth that much - actually, a lot more, that's not the point.

​Women recovering from a Narcissistic are already at the end of their rope. The world needs all of us smart, compassionate, successful women to rise up and take back our voices.

So even though the Narcissist Recovery Coaching Program isn’t free, it’s VERY affordable. It's also the most thorough and supportive program I know of anywhere to help you heal from, make peace with or walk away from a Narcissist. ​

​You can start right now, today, for $75 ​a month OR you can sign up for the whole year at a much lower price. ​

I really want you to consider the whole year. Change takes time and life gets in the way.

​A good healing circle takes longer than a month to ​create change and needs stable and dependable members ​to weather good times and bad times. 

A healing village needs core members who invest in themselves and each other. So… to make that super easy and affordable for you to transform your whole life and help other women grow too…

The first 40 Founders of our village only pay $425 for the whole year.

Yep. The whole year.

2020 can be your year where you find your voice and make real, concrete changes in how you deal with Narcissists.

So you can do 1 payment of $75 now if you want to go month to month and try it out or you can commit to making 2020 your year of healing by signing up for 12 months for $425.​

​More than a weekend retreat, you get support and help to heal from a Narcissist every day of the year with the daily livestreams, weekly question and answer sessions, weekly Sacred Women’s Circles, monthly Masterminds, an easily searchable library of Narcissism Recovery Livestreams, ​and a village of women who understand meaningful friendships and are smart, successful women also healing from Narcissist or toxic relationships. 

Successful women doctors and artists, engineers and world travelers, writers, designers… intelligent, emphatic and compassionate women who found themselves tied to a Narcissist and decided to come home to a village of loving women and heal.

Just click the button that says, "Yes, I want to come home".

a 100% Money Back Guarantee

You should try out the whole program. Watch all the videos and show up to the calls. Join the private Facebook Village. And if you decide this isn’t the right place for you… if you don’t find healing and connection and compassion at a very high level...

Then you can get a 100% refund. ​Just let us know in 60 days or less.

​​You can feel pretty confident you'll find this program to be just what you're looking for to heal from a Narcissist.

​It's okay to take advantage of the guarantee and ask for your money back even after you see growth and change and peace start showing up in your life. And that’s ok, we're all on our own path.

I want you to feel comfortable and supported enough to take the risk and start taking back your life from a Narcissist.

When you compare being a part of this loving healing circle with ​doing it by yourself or just with a therapist, this is the MUCH easier and safer path.

And way less risky than living with a Narcissist.

Just Click The "Yes! I Want To Come Home" Button...

Once you click the "Yes! I Want To Come Home" button, then you just enter your information on the next page.

It's ​pretty easy to get started.

You'll get an email in 5 minutes with all the details about the weekly calls, the private Facebook group, etc.

You can even get help right away by watching past Sacred Talking Circles and training videos.

This is the most loving, customized program I know of anywhere to heal from narcissists and their abuse. I hope you can join us - the next call is happening soon.

Click the "Yes, I Want To Come Home" button below and ​start healing from the inside. You can try us out for 

$75/month or make the commitment to yourself and sign up for the whole year for $425

PS: (Remember, with my guarantee​, it's a very safe risk. You can always get your money back if you're unhappy for any reason. If you want to give it a try, go ahead and click the "Yes, I Want To Come Home" button above to join us.)

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